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No Bread Today started out as my "sanity journal," so I could keep a level head and a sense of humour throughout a personal financial crisis. Facing illness, unemployment, poverty (I ran out of money), and the terror of homelessness, I reached out for emotional support by blogging, and support came. No Bread Today has now evolved into something far beyond me. It is a haven and a resource for others in the same or similar circumstances. I will keep writing my own experiences with a chuckle, so enjoy the posts, but I have also added links to emergency resources and a list of places where you can get free meals and inexpensive groceries for low income residents on the Lower Mainland. As I uncover more resources, I'll keep listing them here (scroll down to page bottom to view) and on twitter. With the ecomony being what it is, sadly, there are many of us struggling. Hopefully, No Bread Today will a give you a hand-up. If anyone can add to these lists, please do. If you appreciate what you read here, please share this blog with others, because someone always knows someone, who knows SOMETHING that can make all the difference.

With profound gratitude to those who have been so amazingly supportive so far, and who have given so much of themselves - not out of guilt or any self-serving interest, but purely out of love, compassion and generosity. You are my inspiration. My intentions remain: I am not seeking financial assistance of any kind from this blog. I simply hope this becomes a story of triumph, for all who share it. I hope you laugh as hard as I do. I hope No Bread Today is as inspirational and empowering for you, as it is for me. I hope people will relate, inform, and chime in. I hope I can help you, in return. If this welcome message is the only thing you read, I ask only that if you are able, please donate to your local food bank. People are hurting right now and they need you. Thanks! ~ Jo Bless.

Sunday, February 7, 2010

Man denied food for his 4-year-old daughter at Food Bank

The line at the food bank on Friday was the longest I have seen yet, with an unprecedented 2-hour wait, outside. Despite the balmy temperatures in Vancouver, you get cold after a few hours. I felt badly for the many mothers with their children in tow. I also see many of the same people at the food bank as I do at the centre for people with disabilities, so what does that say about how our culture treats the helpless?

I passed the time chatting with the man behind me in the line. He recently moved to Vancouver from Montreal, and like myself, is facing his first financial crisis as a result of having a great deal of difficulty finding work in Vancouver. He is appalled at the high cost of rent in our not-so-fair city, recently proclaimed the most expensive city to live in, IN THE WORLD. He's shocked by the shortage of work, and remarked, "This is a new experience for me." I can relate completely. Unemployment rates aren't any higher in BC than the rest of Canada, so why does is just feel so much tougher here?

He was telling me about his 4-year-old daughter, who wasn't with him that day, thankfully, since the wait was so long. He had left her with a sitter while he went to the food bank. I would have done the same. Who would drag a tot along unless you had to, right? She's better off warm and waiting at home. WRONG.

Although his child was registered at the food bank, AND he presented all of her ID, he was denied the right to claim food for two people, instead he was only given the single person portion, the same as I receive. (See below). I can barely feed myself on food bank supplies, how is he going to manage to feed his daughter?

Readers, you know what a huge supporter I am of the food bank, I'm always praising them for what they do, but the scene that unfolded before my eyes was a heart breaker. According to the Greater Vancouver Food Bank Society website page on How to Access Food @ https://www.foodbank.bc.ca/main/?receivingFood, it says,

"There are no requirements to access one of the depots except that all recipients must bring a piece of ID for themselves and any immediate family members for whom they are picking up food."

It doesn't say your child must be physically present or that you have to bring your kids to qualify. The man looked scared. It was like the movie, The Pursuit of Happyness, but for real. I almost gave him my own food, but then my survival instinct kicked in, and I didn't. I regret that now. I should have given him mine, despite the fact that it's all I have to live on. Even though I'm now on EI, I have just enough to cover my rent and bills for my RA medications. Plus, I forgot to mention this in earlier posts, I have to take (doctor's orders) three kinds of specific vitamin supplements to counteract the side effects of the medications. They cost a bundle too.

Here's what I received for one week of food. Imagine trying to feed yourself and your child on this:

1 can of tuna
1 large package of egg noodles
6 eggs
2 cans of pop
5 apples
1 package of pre-washed, ready-to-eat spinach
1 box of couscous
6 large carrots
1 box of cinnamon oatmeal granola snacks
3 potatoes
1 can of fruit cocktail

That's all. That's it. Of course he got upset, maybe even used the f-word, I was out of earshot. But I did hear one of the nice lady volunteers say, "I don't have to put up with that kind of language." Sure. Uh-huh. But can you blame him? How can the food bank people deny his child food like that? I'd like to see that lady's reaction if she was in his shoes. She probably goes home afterward to her big house and her full fridge and pantry, feeling good about herself that she volunteers to help the needy.

What do you think? I'd love to hear some opinions on this topic.

7 comments:

  1. Absolutely appalling. There is no excuse for that kind of treatment, particularly when the the policy is so clear.

    As for the amount of food one person gets.... certainly no entertaining guests on that one! I realize they are only able to provide what is donated or what they can purchase with donated funds but you're right - it's not enough for a whole week.

    I'm fortunate in that I have a job and can provide enough food. I am very tempted to try to live on what you get for a week. What happens with milk and bread??

    Is there an agency that's better than the food bank? What about grocery store gift cards.... is there anyplace one can donate to so that people get gift cards and can choose their own food?

    Something's just not right.

    FER

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  2. What a grrreat idea, FER! It would be fantastic if people could get GC's instead. And no, there hasn't been milk or bread any of the times (5 now, I think) that I've been there. Not to mention the "incidentals" that we use every day, like toilet paper, dish detergent, toothpaste, stuff like that. I have a dear friend mailing me these items from another province. There are other places a person can get a free meal, i.e. soup kitchens, but it's really "rough" there, if you know what I mean. I will look into the Safeway gift card idea, that at least offers some choice ... and a lot more dignity. Thanks for the feedback! I'll approach the food bank organizers with your idea and maybe we can draft a proposal/request to all the major supermarkets ... You ROCK! This is how revolutions get started ;)

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  3. In Alberta, you can go to your church and they will give you a 50.00 Safeway Gift Card. Please try asking the Catholic Church there, I would be very interested in what they say. After all, what the heck are all those dishes they pass around every sunday for? Don't they say its for the less fortunate? The Church spends enough time guilting us.....go guilt them into giving a little sometin sometim to the community!!!!!

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  4. Hi Jo,

    A few things you might be able to use. Maybe you already know about these (?). The following are for Vancouver, BC:

    (1) ask your worker to give you a card to Quest. It's a place that sells expired food for cheap. Yes, I know...expired food! :( Stay away from the marshmallows from 2 years ago. But the tomato sauce is great! Other things that don't "really" expire: mustard, hotchocolate, noodles... And you can get the bread for $1 or less. It's located in Vancouver. You need a card. If you don't have a worker, visit one of the Family Services / welfare offices and see if you can get one.

    (2) Do you know about Fair Pharmacare? Another thing to ask your worker about. BC's health card for poor folks like us.

    (3) LAC card = Leasure Access Card. Can get the form at the welfare office...Maybe at the EI office as well. You can get into community gyms for 1/2 price, and some other things for free.

    (4) When your EI runs out, if you're still unemployed, apply for welfare Disability. It pays better than regular welfare and you can make a bit of money on the side without having to declare it. I think you're allowed to earn another $400 on top of your disablity payment without being penalized. You;ll also get a _really_ cheap bus pass. Disability welfare also picks up some of the costs of medicattions.

    (5) Dress for Success: Women can get a full suit for work / job interviews. Useful if you're weight has changed drastically...you can get something that fits, for free. Have to get referred...again, through a worker. Might be able to call them directly and ask for appointment.

    (6) I don't know about E.I, but I know that you can ask for a clothing supplement cheque once a year through welfare. It's about $100.

    Hope some of this helps...

    - Anonymous "C"

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  5. Thank you "C"! I will ask. I really appreciate that you took the time to write to me and make all these great suggestions. BIG hugs to you!

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  6. I came across your blog through a Goggle Alert I had set-up and your post above broke my heart. I am a mother of a 1 1/2 year old and I can not imagine the pain of not being able to feed your child. It made me want to help… I am thinking now how I can do that…

    I have an odd question for you… where do you write? I don't mean specifically, but in general? Is there somewhere you go with free computer access?

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  7. Hi L. I'm glad you found this blog. Yes, it was heartbreaking to watch that man be told he couldn't claim any food for his daughter. Worse still, he swore under his breath (Wouldn't you? I would!), and I overheard a volunteer woman say, "I don't have to put up with this!" He was made out to be the bad guy in this situation, which is unfair if not ridiculous. The man was only trying to feed his 4-year old! I'm sure all parents could empathize with that. As for your question, I am on EI, so I have some money coming in for rent and bills, such as basic phone and Internet. But I always have a contingency plan: libraries offer free internet access when all else fails ... Internet access is a necessity for job-hunting (not to mention blogging my way through my unemployment and Rheumatoid Arthritis woes and frustrations!), so I make sure to pay that bill every month so I can keep on keepin' on. I often don't have enough left for food, hence the food bank. This month is no exception, I'm paying my rent today (which takes an entire EI cheque), and only have $50 left for food for 2 weeks. That won't last long, so I'll be going to the food bank again next Friday, and if I run into the same man (probably will), I'll ask him what happened and blog about it. I hope you stick around to find out how all this turns out. Take care of yourself and your little one, and thanks for your comment!

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